Here I am, in therapy again – writing out / working out
what’s in my brain.
This morning as I was preparing an aloe/honey concoction
that is supposed to kill tumor cells, there was a knock at our door. There was our neighbor Joe, looking
weary, worn, emotional, asking if Dave was also around. Dave must have heard, for he was at the
door with me in an instant, and Joe told us his father-in-law, also our
neighbor, was killed on the 605 FWY early yesterday morning. We had not watched the news, we hadn’t
heard. We spent about 30 minutes
with him, listening as he grieved, and shared the shock that they were all
experiencing. I promised him
dinner tonight, and he was so grateful.
I wish, rather, I could have turned the clock back for all of them, and
kept Joe (father-in-law) off the freeway.
In light of the pain of this sudden, horrible death, my
prognosis seems like such a blessing.
Being wrenched out of life without the chance to ponder and love one
last time; vs knowing you have some time?
Give me the warning.
I heard from the
oncologist early evening yesterday, and surprisingly the CT Scan did not show
the tumor we suspected... but it did show irregularities to my T10 vertebrae
and ribs. That would suggest bone cancer mets. He said a bone
biopsy would confirm that, but it is risky – so I may forego the confirmation.
We meet with him next Thursday, and will get greater detail on plan of
attack. I want to also explore ‘natural’ ways to deal with this.
He’s not sure why I
have all the abdominal discomfort that I do. Perhaps I take after my mom in this way, as she often has
similar pains. I guess this
diagnosis explains my hurting back.
I figured it was “the tumor” that was pressing on my back and causing
the pain. But I suppose now, it is
actually the bone cancer that is causing the pain.
I asked about
prognosis, he says if treatment does not work - maybe 2 yrs, if it does work -
several years.
How am I feeling? Actually kind of grateful. I had begun thinking that I’d be facing
3 – 6 months. Two years suddenly
seems like such a huge gift… and there is the carrot dangling that if things
work, “several more years.” I
recently asked God for 20 more years, and then we could have this conversation
again. I wonder, after I asked
that, did he already remove an abdominal tumor that I surely thought I
had? Is He already at work,
healing? Nothing is too hard for
God. I recall during this
Resurrection season, that even Jesus asked that “this cup be removed” from
him. Not my will, but His.
Of course I ponder Joe
Sr. What happened to him can
happen to any of us. None of us
know the time or the season that we will be suddenly snatched. Two years, several years, tomorrow at 9
a.m.?
I feel most acutely
for my husband, our kids, my mom.
Not that I am all that important; yet my absence from these special
people will profoundly affect their lives. Not even that I’m that great of a wife, mom, or daughter –
but we do get rather accustomed to that wife, mom, and daughter that we
have. I know that God will show up
for each of them, and bring his presence and help. However, the practically is it will be pretty difficult; it
will be an adjustment. I really
don’t want them to have to face that adjustment.
I also feel for the
extended family, so much loss this past year or
two. The
funerals have been sadly, quite regular, and unexpected. And I must ask, for what purpose? Since I believe that God will bring good out
of all bad, He will not let evil
prevail. Yes, it appeared satan
won when he took Jesus out… but look who really won! All of us! This
is the greatest example of taking something bad and turning it to good. We all need to look with expectation to
God when these things happen. Rather than asking simply, “Why God?” We should be asking, “What are you up to now God? What do you want me to learn? Who do you want me to better
understand? Who can I serve?” And then be ready for the good.
So, today, my bottom
line is pretty squiggly. I’m
feeling grateful, expectant, sad, confused (not about life, but about all the
options of care and treatment we’ll have to figure out). Please pray for all of us. This is surely not just about me. It affects everyone around me. Pray for healing; and/or wisdom in
choosing the correct treatment plan.
(And pray for out
neighbor Joe, and his family. Pray
for my mom too. Moms take things
hard when it affects their kids… write her, encourage her.)